The Smallest Things That Mattered the Most During My Recovery

Hi everyone, Dom Padilla here. As many of you know, my life took an unexpected turn in September, 2023, when I experienced a cryptogenic stroke. Since then, my focus has been on rebuilding my life, both physically and emotionally.

One question I was asked recently is, "What were the smallest things that mattered the most during your recovery?" It's a tough question, honestly, because so many little moments added up to make a big difference. But after some reflection, two things stand out.

First and foremost, it was calling my kids every day to say good morning. Before my stroke, I was the one getting them ready for school, packing lunches, and making sure they were out the door on time. That routine was a cornerstone of our lives. When I was in the ICU and then rehab, I felt this overwhelming sense of loss, not just for myself, but for them. I worried they’d feel like I’d disappeared, like I’d forgotten them.

Those daily calls, even when I was struggling, were a lifeline. They were a way to maintain a sense of normalcy, to reassure them that Mom was still here, still thinking of them. I wanted to keep that thread of routine, to pretend, even for a few minutes, that nothing had changed. I tried my best to put on a brave face, to sound strong and positive, because their well-being was my priority. Inside, I was often fighting back tears, but I knew those calls were really important. They were a small act, but they meant the world to me, and hopefully to them too. It was a piece of my old life that I could hold onto, a reminder of who I was before the stroke.

Secondly, prioritizing sleep and rest became non-negotiable. I knew each day would be packed with intense therapies – physical, occupational, speech, and more. My body and mind were working overtime to recover, and without adequate rest, I wouldn’t be able to make progress.

In rehab, I learned to listen to my body. If I was tired, I rested. If I needed a nap, I took one. I stopped feeling guilty about needing sleep. I understood that it wasn’t laziness; it was essential for healing. Sleep allowed my brain to repair itself, my muscles to recover, and my energy levels to replenish. It was a crucial part of my rehabilitation, as important as any therapy session. I learned that recovery isn't just about pushing through; it's also about knowing when to slow down and let your body heal.

Honestly, there are countless other “small things” that made a big difference. The kind words from a nurse, a visit from a friend, a moment of laughter with a fellow patient. Each of these moments, seemingly insignificant on their own, contributed to my overall well-being and helped me stay motivated.

My journey is still ongoing. I still face challenges, including partial blindness, but I’m determined to keep moving forward. I hope my experiences can inspire and empower other stroke survivors to find their own "small things" that make a difference in their recovery.

Warmly,

Dom Padilla, Chief Outreach Officer, RebuildAfterStroke